And to all the guys, if you are going to get a college girl, get her while she is a freshman. It sounds like Mike has done this; good job. You see, freshman girls have almost no idea how to act, and they are highly impressionable. Even sophomores have a great deal more confidence- stay away from them. And once they are seniors, you are screwed, and not in a good way. They know what they want and if you are in that picture, great, and if not, tough.
See, I respectfully disagree. I was indeed at the end of my freshman year when I began dating Mike, but I had a very clear picture of how to act and wasn't exactly "highly impressionable." Are there many girls out there like that? Yes... but a bunch of y'all said you'd like to find ladies with my mindset, and I'll tell you what - young, impressionable girls are NOT them!
If you have to mold a woman into what you want her to be, what's to say she isn't going to up and decide someday that she hates Wyoming, couldn't give a rip about guns, and is going to run off and marry a rich banker and live in a penthouse in Seattle? Sooner or later a woman
will grow into her own, and if you've tried to "catch her young" in hopes of making her what you want her to be, you're in for a rude awakening when you come home to an empty house because she decided she was sick of being "molded."
Nope, sorry Max, but you've got it exactly backwards. If you want a woman who is going to back you up in Wyoming, you need one who knows exactly who she is and what she wants. Dragging an unsure woman out there is a recipe for disaster. You'll end up alone in Wyoming with an alimony payment. This is not to mention the fact that if you take a woman and make her in the image of what you want, shouldn't you have just gotten a dog or something? I'm far from a feminist, but a woman is supposed to be a strong partner for your life, not just a live-in chef and babymaker. If you want a wife who cooks and cleans and raises your children, you better be damned sure it's because that's what she feels called to do as her womanly duty, that she is confident in that and it's what she seeks for her life. If you take some scared little freshman and try to make her that - again, be prepared for a rude awakening.
Besides, why would you even
want to be with a woman who doesn't know what she wants, but goes with you because of - what, a lack of options? You say to avoid seniors because they know what they want, and if you don't fit into it, you're screwed... Don't you
want a woman to want you?
You should be shooting for a woman who knows exactly what she wants: a warrior, a gentleman, a father, a strong husband, a businessman, a marksman, etc. She should have a very clear picture of what her man should be, and if you don't fit into that, it's because she doesn't see you as the right
man for the job. Be the man that a woman like that will desire, and you will find yourself a confident, strong, and loving wife. You
will not be happy with less in the long (life) run, even if it's easier to come by to start with.
If you'd like a Biblical reference to the perfect wife, IMHO, check out Proverbs 31. That's my goal. I'd say she's a heck of a lot closer to a FSW woman than a demure, unsure college freshman, no?
Laurel
P.S. I just read this to Mike before I posted it, to see what he thought, and he agreed with me and added "If you just get an impressionable woman and make her what you want, you can't find any joy in her because she's not authentic. It's kind of like the fact that there's no glory in conquering a weak people."